Thursday, 16 May 2019

Can Money Make You Happy?




I thought that for today’s blog post I would do something a little different and talk about quite a taboo subject, which is money. I get that some people simply do not want to talk about money and I completely understand where you are coming from. You will never see me talking about the amount of money that I earn, but I also am quite happy to speak very openly about money in general. The reason why I decided to write this blog post was because the last time I went out for a meal with the girls, we got onto whether money can make you happy or not. After all of the wise cracks about shopping was out of the way, it actually sparked quite a big debate.

I guess for me, I have been on both sides of this. Growing up when I was very young, before my mum and dad got divorced, we were a very well-off family. Following their divorce, it was my sister and I living with a single mum and there were times when it was very hard. Even though my dad did give money to my mum that was agreed through the CSA, he gave the bare minimum. It was hard for my mum to make ends meet, but she always made sure that my sister and I were well provided for and we never needed anything. It could have been much worse for us and we were well aware that we have a loving family and a beautiful home, but as an adult with my own responsibilities, I cannot imagine the sleepless nights that my mum must have had.

As I grew up, seeing what my mum went through with regards to money, gave me a kick up the arse to be good at managing my finances. I have never had a credit card and I save meticulously. I work full time during the week and then in every single moment of my free-time I work on my blog. I am now a home-owner, I run a car and I am planning a wedding. There is a lot of outgoing finances at the moment in renovating our home and with our big day getting closer, but we are still very much in a comfortable position. We are both very well aware not to spend above our means and if that ever meant for me to cut back on my luxuries, it is something that I am more than happy to do!

When I look back, as I was growing up we were so happy. There wasn’t a day that went by that my mum didn’t make our life the best that it could possibly be. We used to laugh, pick on each other and we just had the best time growing up. Obviously, there were times when we couldn’t afford to do certain things and holidays abroad were a no for us three, but that really didn’t matter. We always made the best out of everything and now a day went past where I wasn’t genuinely blissfully happy to be growing up in that home. Granted, there was days when I could have strangled my sister, but I think that is normal for most siblings.

Having been on both sides of the debate, for me it isn’t about the money that you have in the bank or the kind of house that you live in, it is all about your mindset and what you make of it. I am sure that there were many times when my mum could have sat with her head in her hands, but she never did, and she kept going. We made the best out of what we had. There is no doubt that money can make your life easier if you don’t have to worry about paying a mortgage, but I don’t think that it can genuinely make you happier. Make sure to leave me a comment down below and let me know how you sit with this one!
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8 comments

  1. I agree. Money doesn't equal happiness - it might mean less worry in some ways but that doesn't equate to automatic happiness. If anyone was asked to think about the time in their life that they felt happiest, I bet what they had in the bank had no baring on it! xx

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    1. Exactly, I just feel like so many people let money rule their life!

      Danielle xx

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  2. This is a tough one. Because I agree, I don't think money can bring genuine happiness but for me I think about the stress factor. I'm currently a SAHM so we have a single income and its extremely hard financially. I stress almost daily about money and in that sense I'm not happy. But, there are of course happy moments. Money can't control everything that makes you happy.
    I do think I'd be in a happier state of mind more often if money were no longer such a huge stress trigger for me.
    Great post! :)

    Renee @ Maritime Mama

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    1. I grew up in a single income household and there was so many nights where we went to bed thinking about money. It always gets better!

      Danielle xx

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  3. No. Money is not the most important thing, but it can take the strees out of being poor! I grew up in a very poor environment, and like you, has helped me manage my finances better in adult life. What bugs me today is the increasing greed and obsession from people thinking wealth will bring happiness. It seems an obsession that's getting out of control - especially on social media.

    sheergloss

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    1. I know exactly what you mean. I guess I too can be guilty of showing off the nice items that I own, but I make sure that I prioritise and spend my money wisely!

      Danielle xx

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  4. I don't think money buys happiness but it can provide security. A lack of money may cause you to become unhappy due to the stress of not being able to make ends meet, but a vast amount of wealth definitely wont make you happy. The only thing which can make you happier is mindset.
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    1. You got that right sweetie, it does provide security!

      Danielle xx

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