Wednesday, 27 June 2018

Thing I Wish I Had Known When I Was Younger


Looking back, there is so much that I wish I could tell my younger self. I didn’t really have the easiest childhood. I was a little know it all child. I have an eidetic and a photographic memory, so school for me was an absolute doddle. I think it is safe to say that it most certainly rubbed people up the wrong way, even though I never spoke about my intelligence, people knew about it and they didn’t bloody like it. Don’t get me wrong, I have a select few friends, who were incredible, but for the most part, my younger days were full of absolute dickheads. So, there is so much that I wish I could tell myself, to make getting through them times just a little bit easier.
After School the People Will Not Matter
Like I said at the beginning of this post, I didn’t have the easiest time at school. While I was at school surrounded by people that quite frankly I couldn’t stand, I can remember thinking that this was my life, just surrounded by utter dickheads. Little did I know that the moment that I left that school on my last day that I would ever see them again. Don’t get me wrong, I have seen a couple people from time to time over the years just by accidentally running into them, and I still don’t want to see them all of this time later. So, I turn on my Manolo Blahnik heel, flip my hair in their direction and I strut away like a sassy bitch. They are so irrelevant to me and I don’t care about any of the people that I went to school with. I just think of where I am now in my life and where they are, and it makes me bloody proud of how hard I have worked to get to where I am now.

Don’t Worry About What You Want to Do
When I left school, I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do with my life. When I finished my degree when I was 18 after been fast tracked through college and university, I was done with education and I just wanted a job. From there I got my job in marketing and I am in love with it. it is a career that just happened to appear out of nowhere and I am so grateful for that. While I was in education I just stuck to subjects that I had an interest in and that made it much easier for me. Even though now I may not use my history degree in my everyday marketing career, I am incredibly happy that things worked out as they did. I just wish that I hadn’t stressed out about decisions that would just work themselves out naturally.
Make the Most Out of Your Time with Family
As some of you may already know, back in the late end of last year, my grandad passed away. I have mentioned it before, but it hit me hard. My grandad was much more than just a grandad to me, he was more like a dad and he was my best friend. Even though I feel incredibly blessed to have spent so much quality time with him, I wish I had made even more of an effort when he was alive. Now, it has gave me a kick up the arse to see my other grandparents more and my other family members for that matter. I just wish I could go back in time and give myself a talking to about it. I know that you have to have friends and a social life, but there are times that I would have much rather been sat talking to my grandad than in a nightclub in the city!


Your First Serious Relationship Will Not Last
Now, this is one of the most important things I could let myself know. At the time, I thought my first serious relationship was everything. I really put all of my eggs into one basket when I was with him, because in my mind I thought we would last forever. As I got older I learnt that there are better things out there and much better people. I would just tell myself to enjoy the relationship while things were good, because there is no denying that there were good times. But, when it changes, make a change and leave him. There is no need to look back in anger, just embrace it for what it was, but most importantly for me to know my own worth.


Always Embrace Change
I am a creature of habit and I always have been. Since I was a little girl I have really hated change.it is only as I have gotten a little older and wiser that I have learnt to accept change. Everything in this life happens for a reason, and you can either accept that or you will end up stuck in a rut. Throughout your life there will always be so much change whether it be in your professional life, friendships and relationships. Life is full of change. The only thing that you can really do just accept it and try and roll with it. I used to bury my head in the sand and pretend that everything was the same, but that is a really unhealthy thing to do.


Travel Wherever Possible
When I was younger I had so much opportunity for travel that I turned down. My dad often had to work from other countries and we always had the offer to go with him, because I was so focused on school I said no. It is only now that I am kicking myself about it. He has travelled to pretty much every inch of the globe and I am so envious of the fact. I am sure that most you will know that when you have your own house, a mortgage, bills and a full-time job it is hard to get the time and money to travel to all of the incredible places. Now, I travel at every single chance I can get, and I love exploring new places.


Your True Friends Will Always Come Through
When I was younger I had a few really good friends. Even though our friendships were amazing back then, we drifted apart. For a long time, I put in so much effort and tried to work hard one something that was very one sided. In the end I realised that there was just no point. I have people and friends in my life now that are worth a million of them. I don’t have to fight to hold a conversation and they will reach out to me out of the blue to ask me how I am and if we want to meet up, they are true friends. We are just there for each other and we don’t have to be in contact every day to know we are there for each other. I am incredibly lucky to have the friendship group that I do now.
So, there you have it, things that I wish I could tell a younger Danielle. I don’t think I would change too much, because I feel like things have worked out really well. I just wish that I could offer a help in hand in the times that I feel like I really needed it. Anyway, I will leave this already very long post here. Make sure to leave me a comment down below and let me know what some of the things are that you wish you could tell your younger self!
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  1. I loved your honesty in this. Especially the bit about friends - as you get older, I find, your friendship circle reduces radically but the ones that stick around are far more precious.

    Laura xx
    {https://sheuncensored.wordpress.com}

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    1. Exactly, true friends are what matter!

      Danielle xx

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  2. Yes, I agree with every single point here. Friends come and go, but true friends are those people who will be with us no matter what and even though we don't do fun things together now that we are older, we talk to each other daily and they call to see if we are doing ok. And we don't need more than 2-3 true friends in our lives.They are more than enough :)

    Yiota
    https://pinkdaisyloves.blogspot.com/

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    1. They really are, the people that will always be there for you!

      Danielle xx

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  3. Aw this is so lovely! It's so cool you have a photographic memory, I love reading personal posts like this :D I love what you wrote about friends and family xx

    elizabeth ♡ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara

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    1. Aww thank you for reading honey!

      Danielle xx

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  4. I totally agree, I used to think school was so important but the people really don't matter xx

    Gemma Etc. ❤️

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    1. The people are completely irrelevant, I wish I knew that then!

      Danielle xx

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  5. Absolutely forget the dickheads you want to school with! When you're at school, it's all consuming and then when you finished all done with!
    I wish too I had taken the opportunities my school and my dads job gave me to travel, but I didn't because of friends and boys

    Kate xx
    www.mummywho.com

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    1. Exactly, when I have children I will really enforce that!

      Danielle xx

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