Saturday, 7 April 2018

What I Do To Relax My Mind and Help My OCD



I know that I have mentioned it a couple times here on my blog before, but for those who don’t know, I have OCD. It is something that I have lived with for many years and something that I just have to get on with. I don’t have medication to try and help me, I just take steps daily to try and make sure that my mind stays on the straight and narrow. Just like any mental illness, I go through stages where I am feeling really good, then things where I feel out of control and completely frazzled. My OCD is not centred around cleanliness, it is about order and control. At the moment I have been going through a hard time and that is being reflected in my OCD and how I am feeling, so I thought that now was a good a time as any to let you guys know how I try and keep a hold on my mental health.

I feel like mental health has a stigma to it. There are so many people out there that suffer in some way or another with a mental health disorder, so there shouldn’t be any cloak and dagger when it comes to discussing it, which is why I want to be open. At the end of 2017, my grandad who was my absolute best friend passed away. We had such a special bond and we were much closer than normal grandchildren with their grandparents. He was only 70 when he passed, which is young for this day and age and he had never been ill a day in his life. That is when the horrible bastard that is cancer reared its head and took over his body within the space of 2 weeks. In that time, he went from being a fit man who would walk a 5-mile round trip each day, to passing away. This sent me spiralling out of control.


At the time, not only was I grieving, I was also out of control. I felt like my world was ending and that wasn’t because of the grief, that was because of my OCD. When things happen in my life that I don’t have any control over and that I didn’t plan for and schedule in, my mind cannot comprehend it and I feel like nothing is going right in my life. This leads to depression and dark thoughts, it sounds dramatic, but it is the gods honest truth. Luckily, I have a supportive family and a great doctor/councillor that I can talk to and discuss what the next step is for me. Personally, I choose not to take medication to manipulate my mood, I tried it before in the past and I hated how it made me feel. So, I have to take small steps daily to regain control of my own thoughts.

Firstly, in a morning I will clean my house. Even though my OCD does not make me a germaphobe, I do need to have order, so by having each room perfect and in place it eases my mind, hence giving me control over an aspect in my life. I control the fact that my house is nice and tidy. If I do something as simple as not making my bed before I go to work in a morning it will play on my mind and I can break down just because of an unmade bed. I have even been known before to go home and make it because it couldn’t wait a little longer until I get home. Not to mention that there isn’t anything more satisfying than hoovering and seeing the track marks in my super thick carpet. It is the little things that help my mind.

Another thing I do to try and help myself out is exercise. To quote Elle from Legally Blonde, “exercise gives your endorphins. Endorphins make you happy”, it may be a simple quote but it is true. When I am suffering with depression as a result of my OCD, the last thing that I want to do is drag my sorry ass out of my bed, I feel like my energy levels are through the floor and I have no motivation, but I force myself. I know in my mind that I want to get better and I want to feel more positive, so I try to do anything that I can, even if it is just walking my dog for half an hour. It is better than just laying in bed and feeling sorry for myself.

My diet is another aspect that I have to change up when I am in one of my funks. Day to day, I eat very healthy. I love how fresh and delicious healthy food tastes, but when I am down, I allow myself to eat anything that I want. If I am craving a burger, you can bet your bottom dollar that I am going to get one. I don’t want to deprive myself of anything when I am trying to work on myself. I just make sure that I don’t overdo it with the unhealthy eating, at the end of the day, you are what you eat and if you scoff on fat and processed food, you’re going to end up feeling pretty shitty about yourself. It is all about having a little bit of what you fancy.


Then the other thing that I do, and it is probably the most important one out of everything is just to take some time to myself. Sometimes for me to work through my issues and get on with things again, I have to take the time and be sad if I want to be sad, mope around if I want to do and just take things at my own speed. The important thing to remember is just that you are never on your own and there is light at the end of the tunnel. I know that this post got a little deep and took a completely different direction to what my posts are normally like, but the only way to normalise mental health disorders are to talk about them openly, so that is what I am here doing.
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22 comments

  1. It must have been such a shock to lose your Grandad in the space of 2 weeks, especially as you were so close. It sounds like you deal with your OCD really well and hopefully this will hep others xx

    Beautylymin

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    1. Thank you sweetie, it can be hard but talking about it and been open really does help!

      Danielle xx
      http://www.fashionbeautyblog.co.uk/

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  2. I applaud you for sharing your struggles and tips! I also struggle with mild OCD, so I can totally relate to this post. Have a great day. <3

    Madison | Breakfast at Madison’s

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    1. Aww thank you, have a lovely weekend darling!

      Danielle xx
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  3. Sometimes I find allowing yourself the time to be sad is important too - we need to recognise and accept our feelings - the important thing is not to stay there x

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  4. Love your honesty - thanks for sharing the story! It´s so inspirational to see someone overcoming OCD! My grandma was my best friend, also missing her so much <3

    Anna
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    1. Thank you for commenting sweetie, it can be so hard, I completely understand that!

      Danielle xx

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  5. It must have been such a shock to lose your Granddad like that. It's great that you've shared how you keep your OCD under control, I'm sure a lot of people will find it so helpful. x

    Kate Louise Blogs

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  6. So sorry for your loss in a such a short period of time!! I'm a control freak and I don't always cope very well when life happens. I got a tatoo with a small wave, referring to the quote "you can't stop the waves but you can learn to surf", and I think it's a great mindset when we are in those out of control situations.
    Lots of hugs xx

    Caterina | caterinasosso.com

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    1. That is such a beautiful quote, thank you for sharing that with me!

      Danielle xx

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  7. Aw, I'm so sorry to hear this! Cancer is a biatch and sneaks up on the best people around. It's good to hear he didn't suffer for too long, though, and you've been so close with him for all this time.

    It must be tough to live with OCD, I know some people have small behaviours that could be categorised under OCD, like not being able to look at something that is out of order, but some people can't even leave their house because everything outside has the possibility to be out of order, and they can't deal with it.
    It's lovely to hear that you've found multiple ways to tackle the problem and control certain aspects in your life. I guess the blogging thing might help you with it too, no?

    PS, lovely picture. Some of my absolute favourite Jo Malone fragrances right there! ;-)

    Love, Charline | Charline Has a Blog  

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    1. Exactly, that is all I can take from it that he didn't suffer for very long!

      Danielle xx

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  8. I love Jo Malone scent
    and these are great tips

    Much Love, Jane | The Bandwagon Chic
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    1. Jo Malone make the most stunning scents!

      Danielle xx

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  9. Sending you lots of love for this post! x

    Sheena
    http://afashionstudentsdiary.blogspot.co.uk/

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